Siblings - relates to blood relation either brothers or sisters. I've an elder sister who marries to Australia 10 years ago and now living with her husband and have 3 beautiful kids - 1 girl and 2 boys.
Living and getting along with her is never a problem to me at all. But living with my brother in law is a big headache. I could recalled 8 years back when I went over to pursue my studies, my sister and I got along pretty well but as time goes by I could no longer tolerate my brother in law which takes every cent and being so calculative with me until I moved out to live by myself.
That particular time my brother in law is only working as a part time chef in some chinese restaurant so every cent to him is important - I will be thinking that if you can't afford then don't ask my sister to bear so many kids.
5 years ago when my brother in law started up his own business - noodle factory. Money was good and I was being naive thinking that he had changed finally. As they managed to moved to a bigger house and nicer enviroment.
I was there staying with my sister then, as I was pregnant with my 1st baby. Don't get me wrong, I do not live with them free. No doubt money was tight for me at that time of point I helped out in doing daily house chores in order to make him feel that I do contribute to the family. I was not being appreciated instead I was used by my brother in law like a maid. Heavily pregnant I still need to wash toilets, vacumm the entire house, moping, dish washing, clothes washing, drying them, folding the clothes and even put in back into their wardrobe.
My brother in law did not see anything that I did for the house instead he complained to my mum who later came to visit us after I delivered my baby boy, saying that I do nothing at home instead just watching television, eat and sleep. I felt so terribly angry with what he had said.
Well as family I do not intend to create anymore problems. I kept my mouth shut and in few months time I flew back to Malaysia together with Ethan. 3 years down the road, I was pregnant again and this time I went over to stay with them. As usual my duties are like a maid.
I do not complain as I know am living under the same roof and I need a place to stay. Well... at least this time I kept myself and Ethan locked inside my own room basically the entire 8 months. Weird right?
Today in 2010 my eldest boy was granted a place in school and my parents discussed this matter with my brother in law and he did agreed and at the same time he also disagree.
This is what I hated most, where is my sister who normally stands for me and my kids? My sis has changed tremendously having her own family problems with her hubby even make this entire situation worst.
My dad who stayed back with sister to take care of my boy. The worst was I even found out that my sister is siding her children and accusing my baby boy for doing things which he did not even do.
Apart from that my dad was not given a proper place to sleep and a proper meal to eat. Can you believe that everyday he will either eat instant noodle or left over fried rice together with my boy?
Is this what you call a daughter duties to take care of your parents? Sister even asked my dad to help her sending kids to school and extra activities..!! Hello.. !! My dad is already 66 this year, how long more must he do? Aren't he supposed to be retiring and enjoying his time with his grandchildren instead of working like a chaffeur?
Monday, March 22, 2010
Siblings
Siblings - relates to blood relation either brothers or sisters. I've an elder sister who marries to Australia 10 years ago and now living with her husband and have 3 beautiful kids - 1 girl and 2 boys.
Living and getting along with her is never a problem to me at all. But living with my brother in law is a big headache. I could recalled 8 years back when I went over to pursue my studies, my sister and I got along pretty well but as time goes by I could no longer tolerate my brother in law which takes every cent and being so calculative with me until I moved out to live by myself.
That particular time my brother in law is only working as a part time chef in some chinese restaurant so every cent to him is important - I will be thinking that if you can't afford then don't ask my sister to bear so many kids.
5 years ago when my brother in law started up his own business - noodle factory. Money was good and I was being naive thinking that he had changed finally. As they managed to moved to a bigger house and nicer enviroment.
I was there staying with my sister then, as I was pregnant with my 1st baby. Don't get me wrong, I do not live with them free. No doubt money was tight for me at that time of point I helped out in doing daily house chores in order to make him feel that I do contribute to the family. I was not being appreciated instead I was used by my brother in law like a maid. Heavily pregnant I still need to wash toilets, vacumm the entire house, moping, dish washing, clothes washing, drying them, folding the clothes and even put in back into their wardrobe.
My brother in law did not see anything that I did for the house instead he complained to my mum who later came to visit us after I delivered my baby boy, saying that I do nothing at home instead just watching television, eat and sleep. I felt so terribly angry with what he had said.
Well as family I do not intend to create anymore problems. I kept my mouth shut and in few months time I flew back to Malaysia together with Ethan. 3 years down the road, I was pregnant again and this time I went over to stay with them. As usual my duties are like a maid.
I do not complain as I know am living under the same roof and I need a place to stay. Well... at least this time I kept myself and Ethan locked inside my own room basically the entire 8 months. Weird right?
Today in 2010 my eldest boy was granted a place in school and my parents discussed this matter with my brother in law and he did agreed and at the same time he also disagree.
This is what I hated most, where is my sister who normally stands for me and my kids? My sis has changed tremendously having her own family problems with her hubby even make this entire situation worst.
My dad who stayed back with sister to take care of my boy. The worst was I even found out that my sister is siding her children and accusing my baby boy for doing things which he did not even do.
Apart from that my dad was not given a proper place to sleep and a proper meal to eat. Can you believe that everyday he will either eat instant noodle or left over fried rice together with my boy?
Is this what you call a daughter duties to take care of your parents? Sister even asked my dad to help her sending kids to school and extra activities..!! Hello.. !! My dad is already 66 this year, how long more must he do? Aren't he supposed to be retiring and enjoying his time with his grandchildren instead of working like a chaffeur?
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