Siblings - relates to blood relation either brothers or sisters. I've an elder sister who marries to Australia 10 years ago and now living with her husband and have 3 beautiful kids - 1 girl and 2 boys.
Living and getting along with her is never a problem to me at all. But living with my brother in law is a big headache. I could recalled 8 years back when I went over to pursue my studies, my sister and I got along pretty well but as time goes by I could no longer tolerate my brother in law which takes every cent and being so calculative with me until I moved out to live by myself.
That particular time my brother in law is only working as a part time chef in some chinese restaurant so every cent to him is important - I will be thinking that if you can't afford then don't ask my sister to bear so many kids.
5 years ago when my brother in law started up his own business - noodle factory. Money was good and I was being naive thinking that he had changed finally. As they managed to moved to a bigger house and nicer enviroment.
I was there staying with my sister then, as I was pregnant with my 1st baby. Don't get me wrong, I do not live with them free. No doubt money was tight for me at that time of point I helped out in doing daily house chores in order to make him feel that I do contribute to the family. I was not being appreciated instead I was used by my brother in law like a maid. Heavily pregnant I still need to wash toilets, vacumm the entire house, moping, dish washing, clothes washing, drying them, folding the clothes and even put in back into their wardrobe.
My brother in law did not see anything that I did for the house instead he complained to my mum who later came to visit us after I delivered my baby boy, saying that I do nothing at home instead just watching television, eat and sleep. I felt so terribly angry with what he had said.
Well as family I do not intend to create anymore problems. I kept my mouth shut and in few months time I flew back to Malaysia together with Ethan. 3 years down the road, I was pregnant again and this time I went over to stay with them. As usual my duties are like a maid.
I do not complain as I know am living under the same roof and I need a place to stay. Well... at least this time I kept myself and Ethan locked inside my own room basically the entire 8 months. Weird right?
Today in 2010 my eldest boy was granted a place in school and my parents discussed this matter with my brother in law and he did agreed and at the same time he also disagree.
This is what I hated most, where is my sister who normally stands for me and my kids? My sis has changed tremendously having her own family problems with her hubby even make this entire situation worst.
My dad who stayed back with sister to take care of my boy. The worst was I even found out that my sister is siding her children and accusing my baby boy for doing things which he did not even do.
Apart from that my dad was not given a proper place to sleep and a proper meal to eat. Can you believe that everyday he will either eat instant noodle or left over fried rice together with my boy?
Is this what you call a daughter duties to take care of your parents? Sister even asked my dad to help her sending kids to school and extra activities..!! Hello.. !! My dad is already 66 this year, how long more must he do? Aren't he supposed to be retiring and enjoying his time with his grandchildren instead of working like a chaffeur?
Monday, March 22, 2010
Siblings
Siblings - relates to blood relation either brothers or sisters. I've an elder sister who marries to Australia 10 years ago and now living with her husband and have 3 beautiful kids - 1 girl and 2 boys.
Living and getting along with her is never a problem to me at all. But living with my brother in law is a big headache. I could recalled 8 years back when I went over to pursue my studies, my sister and I got along pretty well but as time goes by I could no longer tolerate my brother in law which takes every cent and being so calculative with me until I moved out to live by myself.
That particular time my brother in law is only working as a part time chef in some chinese restaurant so every cent to him is important - I will be thinking that if you can't afford then don't ask my sister to bear so many kids.
5 years ago when my brother in law started up his own business - noodle factory. Money was good and I was being naive thinking that he had changed finally. As they managed to moved to a bigger house and nicer enviroment.
I was there staying with my sister then, as I was pregnant with my 1st baby. Don't get me wrong, I do not live with them free. No doubt money was tight for me at that time of point I helped out in doing daily house chores in order to make him feel that I do contribute to the family. I was not being appreciated instead I was used by my brother in law like a maid. Heavily pregnant I still need to wash toilets, vacumm the entire house, moping, dish washing, clothes washing, drying them, folding the clothes and even put in back into their wardrobe.
My brother in law did not see anything that I did for the house instead he complained to my mum who later came to visit us after I delivered my baby boy, saying that I do nothing at home instead just watching television, eat and sleep. I felt so terribly angry with what he had said.
Well as family I do not intend to create anymore problems. I kept my mouth shut and in few months time I flew back to Malaysia together with Ethan. 3 years down the road, I was pregnant again and this time I went over to stay with them. As usual my duties are like a maid.
I do not complain as I know am living under the same roof and I need a place to stay. Well... at least this time I kept myself and Ethan locked inside my own room basically the entire 8 months. Weird right?
Today in 2010 my eldest boy was granted a place in school and my parents discussed this matter with my brother in law and he did agreed and at the same time he also disagree.
This is what I hated most, where is my sister who normally stands for me and my kids? My sis has changed tremendously having her own family problems with her hubby even make this entire situation worst.
My dad who stayed back with sister to take care of my boy. The worst was I even found out that my sister is siding her children and accusing my baby boy for doing things which he did not even do.
Apart from that my dad was not given a proper place to sleep and a proper meal to eat. Can you believe that everyday he will either eat instant noodle or left over fried rice together with my boy?
Is this what you call a daughter duties to take care of your parents? Sister even asked my dad to help her sending kids to school and extra activities..!! Hello.. !! My dad is already 66 this year, how long more must he do? Aren't he supposed to be retiring and enjoying his time with his grandchildren instead of working like a chaffeur?
Friday, March 12, 2010
Life.. ooo Life!!
What is life? Anyone can briefly give me and introduction or the definition for life?
Sometimes me myself don't know what I want in life. I have to beautiful sons and a wonderful partner.. or not so wonderful partner? I myself don't even know?!!
How would you classify a partner to be wonderful or not? He is a good helper at home, helping me up with the boys, changing their diapers, giving them shower, occasionally will buy them presents to make their day.. but this all only involves with the boys!! How about me or should I say what about me being in his life?? I'm seen nowhere at all!!!
I'm grateful to have him to take care of the boys for me but how can I ever be neglected to be part of his life? To me I always puts the boys and him first in position. I'll always call him to make sure he is safe and take his meals, I'll also take the opportunity to give him surprises and I will always be the one who suggest a holiday destination either for just both of us or with our boys...!!
I can't believe that I'm not playing anything important role in his life at all. What got me frustrated was he supposed to buy dinner home tonight.. and ended up I found him hanging out with his friends playing Mahjong instead of thinking of me having nothing to eat where I still need to mend for my boy.
What on earth is this? I frequently questioned myself... am I asking too much from him? Being too demanding? It all happened just a sudden where last time he will normally spend his precious time with me - joking telling me all the happening during the day.. But now... it all seems to lie back just watching on TV and after that he will just either concentrate on the PC surfing the internet. If not he will just head off to bed...!!
I don't want this kinda life, its sounds so boring and nothing more interesting could be happening. Is this supposed to be a married couple life without anymore entertainment, movies, candlelight dinner or surprises?? I'm just so pissed off and I am actually looking for an answer.
Well to me if I ever ended up in a relationship I will always try to put them before me and give them the best I could. If you really love a person don't you feel like spending every moment, minute or second with him or her? At least a call will keep me satisfy. But instead of that, he totally forgotten about my presence in his world.
Gosh..!! How could all this be happening?? I'm just so tired and frustrated at this moment where I suppose to be happily and eagerly waiting for him to return home to spend time with me and my boys..but instead am sitting alone in front of my computer putting in my feelings and cried deep inside myself
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